My Anger

Yesterday we were having a discussions about being "Jats" very aggressive . Then one of my friends pointed out that i curb my basic nature and by nature i am very aggressive . I agreed to the fact and found this topic worth mentioning here as controlling my anger has been a conscious effort from my side.


I always had a belief that to achieve something in ur life one has to be aggressive and haughty. The quantum of these things depends on ur targets. But we have to give them a form which is more creative and amenable. We can take the example of "Gandhiji". One can not deny the fact that he was not haughty or adamant. He too had quite a lot anger towards the issues in the country prevalent at that time. But he had mastery in overcoming his anger and giving it a direction which tried to deal with the actual problem instead of symptoms. That was the reason he won so much respect from the masses and this is the point i want to raise.

Having anger is quite human,but instead of showing a reaction at that moment try to hold it. Think over it in ur leisure time , try to go into the roots of it instead of just looking at the upper visible part and then fight against that root cause. Try to express it in a more constructive and creative way instead of fighting or arguing. I know it is easier said than done but the base rule is "don't react " , hold it for some time and most likely when u will think over it with cool mind u wont feel so bad. It will take time but with conscious efforts, one can learn it and become more tolerant.

Urgent vs Important

This post is mainly inspired by a section of book "Seven habits of highly effective people". I found it very relevant for our daily life and felt it worth sharing.

What i mean to say here is that the task we choose to do in our daily routine should be important enough to do. Or in other words we should not miss the important tasks from our daily routine. Now the next question is what's important ? For the answer, ask urself the question, what u want from ur life ? Where u want to be in next 10 year or so ? How u want to be known when people think about you?

Once u get the answer, u should decide ur daily routine in a way that it helps in achieving the target. Also don't forget to filter out the tasks which are just time waste if you consider them in long run. A common example i would like to discuss here is about exercising, the task which is very important but usually we don't do it because there is no urgent requirement for this. If we want our body to stay healthy and tuned, in long run we cant ignore it ( and i hope no one would like to). But most of us ignore it as at present we are fine and no immediate effect can be seen .
So, this is the example given to help you in deciding what's important and to filter out the urgent but not so important things...